Last month I successfully completed sober October. Well, I officially ended it a tad early at 7:15pm on Friday 31st dressed as a zombified schoolgirl, but by then I’d completed a full 35 days without a drop of alcohol so I’d class it as a success.
What has this got to do with sugar though? How did it compare to a sugar detox? Do read on, because there’s tremendous insight around sugar from this experience that I know is going to help you think deeper around the usual questions of these ‘vice’-type detoxs – is it really worth it? Isn’t life too short? etc. etc. yada yada yada….
Why I did sober October
So first of all, a little background. I have been low sugar for a few years now but I have still drunk alcohol pretty much throughout. I’ve always been very social – personality wise, I am in my element when I’m surrounded by loads of people and get my energy from being out rather than in. Thus alcohol, being interwoven into our social fabric (much like sugar), has established a place quite firmly in my lifestyle. And well, I just really like good wine and a cold refreshing beer at times (yes yes I know it’s not great for health or blood sugar but I still do).
My close friends in London decided to embark on the challenge which obviously made it easier because we could support each other and this also came at a time when I have been starting to question the role of alcohol in my life a bit (quarter life crisis?!). I also was deeply inspired by my friend Stuart Ralph and his 30 day challenge….so I went for it.
What can you learn around sugar from my sober October learnings last month?
1. Making the decision
It took me just over a week to make the decision, I was unsure if I wanted to really do it. Indecisiveness ultimately boils down to one thing – fear. I was worried this was going to make me sad, that my social life – which is what I deem as a ‘primary food’ – was going to suffer and I would be starved of a form of nourishment that makes me happy. I was also worried I wouldn’t stick to it and feel really crap about myself if I gave in half way through. That ‘I would rather not try than fail’ thought was niggling around.
This demonstrates very similar fears to those considering a sugar detox. It’s important to recognise we have these fears – it’s normal. The longer you take to make a decision, ultimately the more fear you have. As scary as it is, it’s so SO much better to try and fail than fail to try at all.
Once I had committed, it was amazing how I started taking incredible positive action to support myself. I got out my diary and filled it with other fun social engagements. I felt excited about the challenge. Creative fun non-alcoholic ideas just appeared in my mind.
Only when you’ve really made that commitment can the true magic start to happen. Sitting on the fence just doesn’t bring out the most of your resourceful self. If you’ve been deliberating for a year or month about taking serious action regarding your sugar habits, you can’t know the impact it will have on you until you really commit. I see this in my clients a lot. Usually as soon as they sign up with me, many stop eating the Haribo/Chocolate/Ice Cream almost instantly. The commitment and accountability is uber powerful in bringing out your best, don’t underestimate it.
3. A reminder of the gain
I did 6 weeks tee-total about 4-5 years ago just to see what would happen. It was such a long time ago I had kind of forgotten if and what the real benefits were of less alcohol. This being the case I was curious just to see what impact a month without would have and if a reminder of the benefits would serve as motivation to keep my intake more ‘moderated’ than it sometimes is. It worked. Like sugar, this toxin gives me spots and my skin is one of those teenage self confidence war scars that I am overly conscious about. I also realised that it doesn’t add as much to social situations as I thought it did and I enjoyed exercise more.
If you don’t know the benefits of a life a little less sugar then how are you going to really motivate yourself to live one? Having a mindful period to experiment and focus on one thing allows you see more directly how it is impacting your health, mental wellness, productivity etc. The gains you see let you weigh up the cost benefit with more personalised evidence than just the generic notion that ‘sugar is bad for your health’.
4. Confidence in yourself
There was one night when I really wanted a glass of red wine – my wine pushing friend even bought around a bottle to tempt me (she’s the equivalent of your sugar sabotager). In the grand scheme of things that one glass of wine wasn’t going to do that much damage to my health but I knew it was going to have an impact on my own self trust and confidence in myself. By this point I was in it for the sheer challenge and to prove I could do it. I’ve tried to do loads of things and end up giving up on them before, thus often class myself as not being able to ‘stick at things’. I wanted to do this just to build my self trust up a bit more on this front. Waking up the next morning, I was so chuffed at myself, all the other later temptations were a breeze.
When that ‘one isn’t going to hurt’ excuse pop’s up, remember that you’re also building your health up in terms of your confidence and self trust. Achieving something that you didn’t think is possible is so rewarding and motivating. Just prove yourself strong once and relish the feeling you get after. The craving for that can then become stronger than the craving for the sugar in question.
5. Control and consciousness
So has old sober October changed the role and amount of alcohol in my life? Good question. I can definitely see that I don’t need the excess in various places and will seek to be more moderated from now on. This month proved I can quite happily be content without it, however, I’m not signing myself up for endless fresh lime and soda waters just yet. Alcohol like sugar now, is just going to be a bit more moderated where I’m more aware of the frequency and amount. Also my body is more sensitive to both that I can’t have as much anyway. That’s the difference, I am in control of it and I’m making the conscious decision knowing full well what the benefits and costs are to me on a number of fronts.
Ask yourself that question to determine your dependence. Could you go without sugar for a period of time quite happily? Do you need it or do you choose it? Let this be the guide to the action you take, rather than what people say or the outlandish health claims you read on a daily basis.
Want to take action?
Feeling inspired? (that is my hope!). If so commit to watching my free 4-videos around getting your ideal balanced lower sugar life. Or check out any of the support programmes I offer. Or just get in touch via e-mail (laura@happysugarhabits), Twitter or Instagram and say what you’re going to do. It’s all in taking action!
Over to you
Is your relationship with alcohol similar or different to that of sugar? Do you recognise any of those fears in your progress towards control around the sweet stuff? Comment below or just share this article if someone you know will find it helpful.
Hope it helped…now where’s that cold glass of Sauvignon Blanc…