You’re making good way with healthy low sugar change. Products have been switched and you know you’re eating a heck of a lot less than you were previously (good going!). Your friends and family are aware of this and thus a new, and not so straight forward, social challenge may present itself…
‘YOU CAN’T EAT THAT….you don’t eat sugar!’
This is a phrase I’ve heard A LOT! It’s also a phrase that for a while I got fearful of hearing. It’s something I’ve personally had to manage and something that often troubles some of my clients as they change.
I used to somewhat feel to be authentic to my blog and business, I couldn’t be seen to eat anything sugary. I had to live this perfect sugar-free life to show that I was 100% walking the talk, to inspire everyone and do it ‘right’. It was quite stressful because it’s completely unrealistic and is by no means the way I want to live and embody my lower sugar lifestyle. I am a relatively typical 29 year old woman living in London doing most of the usual things after all.
Don’t get me wrong, I still walk the talk and generally eat very little sugar compared to your average Joe, but I have my % percentage of imperfection like everyone else does. I’m not addicted to it anymore and so I’m kinda laid back about it in some respects (Obviously I still think it’s a very dangerous substance that is responsible for many health problems and mental torture!).
So what can you do to avoid sugary social awkwardness?
Get your mindset in check first.
Fact of the matter is, the perfect ‘sugar-free’ person doesn’t exist and is a torturous ideal. It’s not really about only eating X amount of sugar grams per day, health is so much more than that.
Health is balance, control, empowerment and much of this comes from the mindset you adopt.
What really matters is finding a lower sugar way of life that blends with you as an individual, that makes you feel healthier, lighter and happier because you’re in control, you make your own empowered choices and you live in (somewhat) peace with your own mind chatter (this isn’t easy I know!).
If you’re eating more sugar than you want, then yes you may go through a period of conscious reduction to find yourself a new equilibrium, however it shouldn’t be a punishing ordeal that lasts forever.
The end goal is simply where sugar doesn’t control you and you call the shots. That nice place where you know you sweet habit isn’t permanently damaging your health and that you’ve successfully reset yourself to a sensible approach to balance and moderation with it.
Look at your communication to others
What messages are you sending to those around you? What are your actions saying about your mindset and healthy philosophy?
Be conscious if you feel you’re proving to everyone else that you’re ‘sticking it’ or that you’re more ‘sugar-free’ than they are. You’re doing this for you remember, don’t get caught up in the comparison trap. Occasionally, and usually at the start, a little bit of stubbornness or healthy competitiveness can be an effective motivator, but just be careful to watch this as time goes on.
Everyone has a different version of healthy. Everyone has different points in their life when they might be a little more motivated or in a better position to make change. Reserve your judgement and accept people will change in their own way in their own time just as you are.
Comments are an opportunity to communicate
When you’ve previously had a different relationship with food and especially sugar, it’s only a matter of time before you may start getting some comments as you transition into this as a lifestyle rather than random ‘fad’ diet which people may initially think.
If you find yourself with the “YOU CAN’T EAT THAT….You don’t eat sugar” comments, take it as an opportunity to communicate your new mindset and shifting philosophy. The more you do this, the frequency of these comments reduces and those close to you will understand.
Low sugar life and social harmony can work and I hope this post helps! If you’re struggling to make lower sugar life settle then check out my newly launched coaching programmes help support & guide you through all of this funky stuff.
P.S I was inspired to write this post by the amazing Jess Silsby of Awaken your Wellbeing – Thank you Jess!
I’d love to know if anyone has said something like this to you before? How did it make you feel and how did you react?